Top 10 anal sex tips

So you and your partner want to explore anal sex. Here are a few important tips to get you started so it is a pleasurable experience for both of you.

• Start by exploring yourself. Masturbating helps you get to know your body, what you like, and what is comfortable for you. Knowing your body and what is exciting and what is not pleasant will only make you more comfortable when sharing anal exploration with your partner.
• Communicate with your partner. This is very important because the more comfortable you feel with your partner, the more relaxed you will be and the more enjoyable it will become. Talk ahead of time how you will go about your anal play and what makes both of you comfortable.
• Lube, lube, lube! It’s been said that when you think you’ve used too much lube, put on some more! Using a lubricant will make penetrating the anus much easier. Remember, it doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina. There are lubricants made specifically for anal sex that will help make it a pleasurable experience. Water-based lubricants are the best, as latex-based lubricants can degrade latex condoms and toys. Be sure not to use numbing lubricants—pain is your body‘s way of telling you to slow down or stop.
• Start small. Begin with a well-lubed finger or a narrow vibrator. There are even sets of graduated cylinders that can be used to “ease into” stretching the anus for anal sex.
• Find a comfortable position. There is no right or wrong answer here, it can be any position you feel most comfortable in. The more relaxed you are the easier it will be.
• Hygiene. This is an important topic! You should never put something into your vagina that has been in your anus. Use a condom for anal sex (even on your sex toys) and then remove it once you are done and replace with a new condom for further sex play. You can get a serious infection if you disregard this. Also, remember that you can get STD’s through anal sex—so you should always use a condom no matter what!
• Go slow… this is a good idea…very, very slow. Communicate (see #2) with your partner if you need him or her to go slower or if you are ok. Taking it slow in the beginning will only make it more enjoyable and more likely for you to have a positive anal sex experience.
• Reciprocate. Anal sex may be something one partner desires and the other one does not. . If you are willing to give as well as take, the other partner may be more willing to try it.
• Clear the way. For some of you this may sound gross, but you should make sure you’ve pooped the day you want to have anal sex – this is for obvious reasons. Some people suggest laxatives or enemas, but you have to determine which is right for you. Using an enema prior to anal intercourse can irritate the sensitive tissue in the rectum increasing the risk of further irritation or even an infection.
• Wash up. Make sure to wash your hands and toys, anything that has touched the anus, so as not to spread germs.

The bottom line is that anal sex can be a new sexual frontier for you to enjoy with your partner making sex more exciting and diverse. Be safe and Enjoy!