What is Vacation Sex and How to Have it!

Why is it that most people report that they have better, more frequent sex while on vacation? What is it about vacation that turns people into lust filled sex maniacs? (Okay, maniacs may be stretching it a bit, but you get the point.) Why are the terms vacation sex and hotel sex now part of our language and culture?

Vacation sex is more than just sex that happens while on vacation and can be many things to many people. Vacation sex is a term used to describe the common occurrence of couples having more frequent sex, better quality sex, and/or more exciting sexual encounters than normal while they are on vacation. This can be sex that occurs anywhere… a hotel, tent, cruise cabin, condo, or even an in-law’s house, it just has to occur somewhere other than your own home. The term hotel sex is a more specific term that is often used to describe vacation sex that occurs in a hotel room.

So why do couples report having more and better sex than normal while on vacation? Stress and anxiety negatively impact our desire for sex and daily demands reduce the time spent communicating and interacting with our partners. On vacation, we are more relaxed and have the time, energy, and lack of distractions to enjoy ourselves and the company of our partner. We aren’t thinking about emptying the dishwasher, making the kids lunches, or that the sheets need changing. The focus can be solely on pleasure. Not only are couples more relaxed, but they also feel less inhibited and are more likely to experiment while on vacation. Why? Being intimate in different surroundings is exciting and hotel rooms with their do not disturb signs and double locks are often just the permission couples need to explore and play.

How to Have the Best Vacation Sex Ever!

• Commit to your vacation! Unplug yourself from the outside world. That means no laptops, cell phones, or other wireless devices. With those things come reality and vacation should be about relaxation.
• Behave like you would on a date. Remember how you used to talk for hours about your future or make-out until your lips were sore? Why not do it all over again. Have fun with each other!
• A vacation together doesn’t mean spending every waking moment together. If you want to pursue different interests during the day, go separate directions with plans to meet back up for a date later in the day. Both of you will be relaxed and can spend the day apart anticipating your time together. Afterall, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
• Try new sex positions! You might be surprised to find out how exciting and pleasurable a new position can be. Need some ideas? There are some exciting, tasteful, informative sexual position books, kits, and movies that will inspire you to try something new.
• Introduce a new toy to your relationship. If you and your partner already enjoy adult toys in your sex life, try a new one. If you want to try an adult toy like a couples cock ring, vibrator, or rabbit for the first time, vacation is a great time to explore and play.
• Spice things up! Try blindfolding your partner to heighten the sense of touch or experiment with light bondage.
• Always wanted to cover your partner with chocolate or whipped cream, but didn’t want to make a mess? That’s one of the wonderful things about vacation sex…they aren’t your sheets! Have fun, try flavored massage oils and tasty creams.
• Explore the exhibitionist in you, afterall you'll never see these people again! We aren't talking about sex in public pool in the middle of the day, but we are talking about intimate encounters on the balcony, or with the curtains open, or even out on the beach under the cover of night. The risk of getting caught can be exciting!

Try any or all of our ideas, but most importantly, take time to slow down, relax, and reconnect with your partner. If you do this, you will certainly experience the pleasure of vacation sex!