The Cowgirl Sex Position

The name of some sexual positions describes perfectly what the position is so you can picture it in your head, while others aren’t quite so clear. Are you thinking of a woman in boots, spurs, and a hat straddling a horse? If so, you’ve got the right idea (the boots, spurs, and cowboy hat are optional of course.) The Cowgirl Position is woman on top sex position that allows the woman to control the action if she chooses.

In this position, the man lays on his back with the woman straddling him on her knees/shins, face to face. The woman can sit upright or rest her hands on the man’s chest or on either side of the man’s body or head. The woman can then control the depth of penetration, speed of thrusting, and the back and forth movements that stimulate clitoral stimulation. She can also make sex last longer by slowing down the thrusting and penetration. If the woman wants, the man can be involved by gripping her hips to adjust speed and movement, pulling her back and forth in a sliding motion. He can also lift his buttocks up and down for additional thrusting action.

Because they are visually aroused, most men enjoy this position because they can “sit back and enjoy the view and the ride.” The Cowgirl position also gives the man easy access to the woman’s breasts, abdomen, and clitoris. He can add extra stimulation by rubbing or caressing her breasts and nipples—even kissing and sucking on them or rubbing her clitoris for stimulation while she is sitting upright straddling him.

There are a few alternate forms of this position that women with knee or leg cramp problems may find more comfortable. One version has the man in a seated position with the woman straddling him. Most people like to use an armless chair for this position variation, but you can also use sexual position aids like Liberator Shapes Cubes or the edge of the bed or sofa. All these options allow the woman to use her legs a little more and have them extended instead of bent at the knee.

Another alternate form has the woman facing away from the man (facing his feet). This is called the ‘Rodeo’ position. Although the woman’s breasts are no longer easily accessible in this position, her buttocks and anus are. The man can add some extra stimulation by caressing her buttocks and using his fingers in and around her anus. (Make sure you use some lubrication if you are going to penetrate her anus.)

Most women prefer a woman on top sex position since it is easier to achieve orgasm when they are controlling the movements and have direct clitoral stimulation. Men may appreciate that they do not have to “perform” in this position and can lay back and enjoy the “ride”. Switch things up and try new positions to add variety, excitement and pleasure to your sex life.