Hotter Senior Sex

Study after study on senior sex shows that you need to use it or lose it. So how you can become that “dirty old man or woman,” and perhaps realize some of the most fulfilling sex of your life?

Better known as the Baby Boomers, today’s seniors are much more sexually active than they’re given credit for. They are, after all, the same liberated youth that ignited the infamous 1960s sexual revolution. And now their “make love, not war” mission involves taking advantage of their ‘empty nest’. With their children now out of the house, their sexual interest is once again peaked.

Bodily changes further act as a good excuse for acquiring new tricks and engaging in sexual experimentation, inviting some of the hottest sexual moments lovers have experienced in years!

According to a 30-year, University of Gothenburg study, a number of elderly report greater sexual pleasure with age, with some women still reporting not only orgasms, but being highly satisfied with their sex lives as well. (Such was true even in cases where a sexual disorder was present!) Add to this the fact that they no longer have to worry about birth control, and couples are having a ball reclaiming their love nests!

So how are they able to experience satisfying senior sex? Factors involved include:

•Sex having more of an erotic focus, especially in being more genuine, intimate, involving, and interactive.

•Giving more time to foreplay. It can take up to 3 minutes for a woman post-menopause to become lubricated enough for comfortable penetration. With slower sexual response, older lovers need to more pleasure-oriented, enjoying the process of getting warmed up more, especially with lubricant in hand.

•Not limiting sex play to the genitals. The entire body-mind-spirit connection is involved!

•Sex being less goal-oriented and more about going with the flow, including those matters lovers don’t have control over.

•Sexual sharing. Couples talk about what’s going on with their sexual self-image and functioning, and how to best manage their sex life.

•Self-pleasuring. These lovers are good at staying sexually “fit,” realizing that you lose it if you don’t use it. Masturbating helps to keep pelvic floor muscle tone healthy and ready for action.

•Staying healthy. These seniors exercise on a regular basis while maintaining a healthy diet, exercising, and taking care of their mental and physical health. Such efforts further bolster one’s self and body image.

•Cultural support. From AARP articles to books like “Naked at Our Age,” having sex as a senior has never been so en vogue. With greater information and empowerment, those entering and in their gold years are realizing that maintaining a sexual, sensual lifestyle does make for greater fulfillment and personal growth.

Key ways to make sure that the aforementioned describes your sex life include:

•Embracing your body. Don’t compare yourself to your younger days or those we see with “perfect” bodies in the media. Judging your appearance or physical capabilities will only manifest dissatisfaction, frustration, and negativity that will permeate your sex life. Appreciate what you’ve become and everything your body has done for you in getting you to this point. You can still sexually express yourself in so many ways.

•Knowing that the aging process doesn’t bring sex to a halt. Illness and the side effects of medications are the major factors that can put an end to sexual intimacy. So stay active and on top of any medical or physical conditions that can hamper your sexual intimacy. Talk to your healthcare provider about your sex life and concerns, both solo and with your partner.

•Focusing on emotional and relationship qualities that can enhance your sexual response. Occasionally remind yourself that there’s a lot more to sex than locking loins. Consider all of the ways you and your lover can connect both in and out of the bedroom.

•Staying away from cigarettes and drinking excessive amounts of alcohol. Avoid abusing prescription or illegal drugs.

•Staying socially connected and active. Having friends, including younger social contacts, helps us all to feel more invigorated. For those of you who are single, being active in your community and having a social network can only increase the chances of finding somebody special.

•Practicing safer sex. While you may not have to worry about pregnancy, if you’re not in a truly monogamous relationship, then it’s in your best interest to use a condom or dental dam in protecting yourselves. No generation is immune to HIV/STDs!

•Reminding yourself what drives relationship satisfaction. Seniors with higher relationship satisfaction report greater frequencies of kissing, hugging, and sexual touch.

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