Keeping Sex Hot!

Any single person will tell you that the hardest part about love is finding it in the first place. But once you finally find the person you want to stay with forever, it seems like the euphoria will never end: you share everything, you like the same things, you talk endlessly, and the sex – well, "steamy" is a mild term for it!

But if you're married or in a long-term relationship, you know that love keeps going strong, but the steam kind of runs out of the sex eventually. Everyday life seems to crowd in, especially after you have kids, and the time you used to devote just to each other gets stretched a lot thinner. It's a rare couple who doesn't occasionally stop and think, "What happened to the sensational sex?"

But it doesn't have to be that way. Maybe you don't have the time you used to have, but you can make the time you do have really count. Send the kids to Grandma's house for the night and try out a few of these tips.

Make a special night just for sex

Forget the bills, put-off household chores, problems at work, or the funny sound the car's making. Don't even bring it up at bedtime. For tonight, none of that exists. It's just the two of you. If there's talk, make it sexy or romantic. Remember the things you did when you were first dating and so hot for each other that you couldn't wait to get naked. It doesn't take much to recapture how that felt – nobody's memory is that bad! Stop seeing each other as "my husband" or "my wife," and regain that hot lust for the man or woman who first attracted you.

Indulge your fantasies – or make some up!

Okay, maybe the thought of handcuffs or blindfolds makes you giggle. But be honest – it also has that shivery touch of forbidden sex. Or perhaps sex in the shower is something new to you. Try it out! The two of you can talk about something you always wanted to do: after all, this isn't some stranger – it's the person you trust the most.

Go to bed naked

This is not the time for that ratty old T-shirt. Surprise your sweetie with bare skin. Or invest in a sexy teddy or a barely-there man thong. And don't worry about "looking fat" or the fact that your abs are a few beers short of a six-pack. After all this time, your partner is well aware of what you look like naked. But if you put a little imagination into what you're wearing, it shows that you still care enough to dress – or undress – for your honey.

Try new positions

Become sexual explorers. If you're just sticking with the old standby positions, try ditching them for something different. Get a copy of the Kama Sutra, or watch an educational video of hot sex positions. In fact, you might even watch a few adult films together for some ideas! Try sex in different places in the house: after doing it doggy in the living room, you'll never look at your couch the same again!

Don't be afraid to laugh

If you're trying new sex positions or new locations, not everything's going to work the way you thought! And if it doesn't, at least you tried. See the funny side. Being sexually adventurous with someone you really love is the most satisfying sex of all!

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