Countering Penis Size Anxiety

No matter how many times it’s said – size doesn’t matter –nearly every guy worries that his penis is, in the very least, a tad too small. Case in point: a Penthouse magazine survey of 1,000 men once reported that nearly every participant wished he was larger, believing that he was “too small.”

With stress, anxiety, and even depression over penis size plaguing bedroom performance, worrying about if he’s thick enough or long enough can wreak havoc on a male’s sex life. Instead of allowing tension over penis size to ruin sexual intimacy, counter it with any of the following strategies:

Cultivate a loving relationship.

Being in a committed relationship defined by caring, nurturance, mutual trust and support, will have you feeling more relaxed with one another. Such openness and acceptance enhances lovemaking and one’s ability to feel good – and to share the body – in all of its glory.

Staying relaxed also prevents muscle tissue from contracting and constricting the pudendal arteries, ultimately enhancing their ability to supply blood to the penis instead of limiting it. The more relaxed you are, the more open your pudendal arteries and, hence, the more blood flows to your penis.

Stay warm.

Think about it - your member shrinks a bit when you get cold, and looks much bigger after taking a hot shower. So stay warm in keeping your muscles relaxed and encouraging more blood flow.

Know the tricks to going deep.

If deeper penetration is desired, length doesn’t have to limit efforts. Put a pillow under her hips to raise them in going deep. Or hold her legs up so that they’re over your shoulders for a better angle. Or ask her to get on all fours or to ride on top, as both of these positions allow you to go deeper. Be sure to talk to each other about how deeply you should go, given her comfort level will vary by position, level of arousal, and other factors.

Avoid focusing on porn star penises.

Many men get the idea that guys are supposed to be well hung thanks to porn. Given that very few men are larger than “average,” and that porn producers pick the guys with the biggest cocks, X-rated flicks portray men who largely (no pun intended) don’t exist.

Keep in mind, too, that the camera angles used in porn further give this larger than life image of the penis, since they’re usually taken from underneath (versus viewing the penis from above – which how most men see it and which makes his pride and joy look smaller). So don’t judge yourself against an unrealistic standard. Most men out there will look smaller than the porn stars, and there’s nothing abnormal about that.

Watch your waistline.

The smaller your gut, the less lower abdominal fat you have to encroach around the base of your penis. Staying trim helps you to show off your true size, with exercise promoting better blood flow to the penis. Stick with a healthy, low-fat diet and regular exercise in controlling your weight and keeping belly fat under control.

Trim your pubes.

With less hair to cover the penis, trimming your penis hair, in the very least, gives the illusion of a couple of more centimeters.

Quit smoking.
The penis shrinks with every puff, since a cigarette's chemicals narrow the arteries, narrowing bloodflow to the penis.

Experiment with a cock ring.

Love rings can temporarily make for a bigger penis when placed at the base of the penis during sex play. In compressing around the penis, namely putting pressure against the vein that carries blood out of your sex organ (since it’s closer to the skin’s surface), this device allows for greater blood build-up and a slightly firmer, larger erection. Just remember to remove the cock ring after 30 minutes of use.

Meditate on this: The vast majority of women don’t care about penis size.
When asked about the kinds of qualities they want in a partner, “hung like a horse” isn’t on the list. Gals are much more concerned about factors like a gentleman’s listening abilities, sense of humor, ability to commit, kindness, warmth, tenderness, attentiveness, ability to support himself.

If you’re still not convinced most gals are indifferent, consider a review of letters sent to Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute for Sex, Gender, and Reproduction, which showed that women asking about penis size were likeliest to complain about a lover being too large – to the point it would cause pain.

Figure out how to please your partner without your penis.

While your cock gives you great pleasure, it’s not necessarily necessary for her satisfaction. So take your time getting her fully aroused and adequately lubricated for sex. And give ample attention to her clitoris, perhaps allowing your tongue – instead of your penis - to take the spotlight.

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