Lip Service She’ll Never ForgetPUBLISHED BY:Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD
While the kisses you plant on her mouth will be cherished for a lifetime, the nether region lip action you worship her with can be equally memorable. Warmly referred to as “yoni kisses” in the Kama Sutra, cunnilingus, or oral sex on a woman, is a form of lovemaking worth mastering.
In Eastern cultures, the yoni kiss represents awed respect and reverence for womanhood and the role of your lover as the giver of life. Kissing and caressing her blossom, her inner and outer labia, and particularly its bud, her clitoris, releases sexual energy that both of you can revel in tonight – and forever. The fact that her orgasm can happen quickly and intensely because action is so concentrated oftentimes makes this union the crème de la crème of sexual loving, release, and pleasure for her. For some women, such kisses may be the best way, or only way, they have an orgasm.
Since so many men are not adept at oral lovemaking, women consider the man who makes it an art form a gem of a lover. No matter what he does in bed, helping her orgasm during oral sex, perhaps several times at that, trumps all. And the best part about it is that you receive when you give! Men often find such a performance highly arousing, to the point of climax, because it is such a turn on to have her writhing, moaning, helplessly screaming in ecstasy with a few skillful moves of the tongue.
With your beloved’s vulva such an elaborate work of art, the possibilities for how to pleasure her are almost endless. No matter what, make sure that you warm up before going for the gold. Caress her breasts, stroke and kiss her belly and thighs, as you work your way into a comfortable position. Move slowly, teasingly, confidently. Depending on how she’s feeling, being “too rough” or “too fast” could really turn her off. She may also be so tired from the day that she may not require much oral stimulation. Her relaxed body will be more receptive to your touch, causing her to peak fairly quickly.
So sitting, kneeling, or lying, put your face between her legs and lose yourself. In concentrating on her clitoris, start by pressing your lips around it, gently sucking and licking it. Play around with different intensities, gauging which one gets the most reaction from her. Using your tongue, stimulate her clitoris, and the surrounding area, with a quick darting or thrusting motion. Try moving your tongue from side to side across her clitoris, slowly getting faster and faster. See if she prefers a soft, lapping tongue to a hardened, pointed one. No matter what, using a steady rhythm is important.
Remember, whether or not this is thousandth time that you’ve gone down on her, make sure it’s an A-list act. This may include:
- Holding her labia, the outer lips, apart to apply ever more direct stimulation to her clitoris (if she can handle it!).
- Experimenting with different temperatures on her vulva, e.g., drinking a hot beverage, like tea, before going to town on her.
- Giving your performance an oh-so-refreshing twist by sucking on a menthol cough drop. The cool, tingly effects will have her sighing “Ahhhh.” Slipping the cough drop inside her vagina may add to this effort.
- Letting her know you’re having the time of your life by making some noise. Let her know you find her absolutely irresistible!
- Continuing to play with the rest of her body, grabbing her buttocks, fondling her breasts, and running your hands up and down her curves.
- Inserting one or two of your fingers into her vagina or anus at any point (making sure not to use the same finger(s) in the anus as in the vagina), perhaps while sucking on her clitoris, may also result in amazing stimulation for her.
- Incorporating a sex toy. Using a dildo or vibrator to stimulate her anus, G spot, or other erogenous zones is sure to drive her wild.
As you make love, don’t be afraid to check in with her to find out if things are getting too intense. Since the clitoris is likely the most sensitive part of her body, what might feel good one moment may not the next. You may need to ease off on occasion and simply feast on other parts of her genitals. In being concerned about her sexual pleasuring more than anything, she’ll know she’s involved with a gem.