For Her Pleasuring: Sexilicious Tips for Guys

Every month, men's magazines are packed full of articles on how to be a better lover, how to maximize her pleasuring, and how to have the best sex ever. With so much information coming your way, it can be a bit overwhelming to identify what’s truly good advice versus what amounts to no more than rubbish. In helping you in your better sex efforts, making things more ‘sexilicious’ for your female lover (and ultimately you), boils down to the following…

1. Know how to work her clitoris, since most women need direct clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Too many men roughly fumble their way down a lady’s panties, hoping they’ll strike gold. So learn some tricks. First, know where to find the clitoris and what it feels like. Ask her to guide your hand in showing you what feels right. She’ll feel a connectedness in your concern. Second, have a silky smooth lubricant, like Better Sex Essentials Gel Lube, handy. This is key: It can make all of the difference in the world. Third, skillfully play with her. Rub her clitoris in an up/down or circular motion. Vary the pressures and ask her what feels best. Lay off every now and then if the sensations get to be too much for her. As you're working her clitoris, massage her pubic area. Insert a finger (or more) into her vagina, using a circular or thrusting motion. Tug at or stroke her inner lips to further get her going!

2. Exude sexual proficiency by becoming a cunnilingus expert. Oral sex is where it’s at for most women. Start by kissing her all over, working your way to her clitoris. Suck on it, lick it – vary intensities. Harden your tongue and use quick darting motions to stimulate the entire genital area – her inner lips, vaginal opening, rectal area – and once you’ve struck gold, maintain your tongue rhythm in that spot. Ease off every now and then when she can’t take any more. Indulge yourself in her treasure. Moan like you can’t get enough. Insert a finger into her vagina or anus for more stimulation. Kick things up a notch by sucking on a menthol as you’re going to town, or do a shot of mint Schnapps for the sensation it provides. One last tip: Shave – your baby smooth skin is going to feel much better than brush burn on her inner thighs.

3. Develop ejaculatory control. The longer you can hold off, the more likely she is to orgasm (and more than once) during sex. Since some men tend to finish before women, you need to let her sexual response cycle catch up with your own. Increase orgasm intensity by learning to control your ejaculation using Kegel exercises for your pelvic floor muscles.

4. Make friends with a vibrator. Instead of being threatened by this mechanical device, be empowered by it. Your lover will be most impressed as you take charge of her orgasmic potential, working a vibrator up and down her clitoral, mons, and anal area, in a circular motion as you hold her and feel her body shudder from ecstasy time and time again. Or send her to the moon the next time you have sex and dare to work the vibrator on her clitoris as you're thrusting her!

5. Don't forget about the rest of her body. As the body’s biggest organ, our skin is ignored all too often. Rather than take a cooking class to meet women, take a massage class to keep women. In the glow of candlelight, treat her to a rub down with baby oil. Pay special attention to her back, her shoulders, her neck, and her feet. Give her light kisses and tell her you can’t get enough of her. She will be putty in your hands.

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